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Life Transitions
The threshold moments — the ones that arrive with their own questions. Career inflections, becoming a parent, the end of a relationship, the slow arrival of a new self.
On the work
How I think about it.
Transitions are strange in a particular way. They tend to bring up not only the present situation, but the whole history of who one has been — and a felt question about who one is now becoming. They can be exhilarating. They can be destabilizing. Often they are both.
What I notice in clinical work is that the people who navigate transitions well are not the people who have no feelings about them. They are the people who can let those feelings have shape — who can grieve what is ending without rushing, who can be in not-knowing without immediately filling it, who can take the time the threshold requires.
Therapy during a transition is a place to do that work. To say the things that don't yet have anywhere to go. To think about the choice from a deeper place than urgency. To metabolize what is changing, so that what comes next can be genuinely yours.
When this might help
Signs worth taking seriously.
None of these on their own is a diagnosis. Together, they may be worth a conversation.
- 01
You are at a career inflection — leaving, starting, scaling something — and the external decisions feel entangled with deeper questions you have not yet articulated.
- 02
An identity that has been central to you — professional, relational, parental — is shifting, and you are not sure who you are becoming on the other side.
- 03
You are grieving something — a relationship, a role, a city, a version of yourself — and have not had a place to do that fully.
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You are about to make a significant choice and want to think about it from somewhere other than reactivity.
What to expect
The shape of the work.
01
Naming the threshold
We slow down enough to see what is actually changing — and what underneath is being touched. Most transitions are several transitions at once.
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Room for grief
What is ending matters, even when what is beginning is good. Therapy during transition tends to involve more grieving than people expect, and more useful grieving than they have done before.
03
A wider shape
When you can be present to the threshold rather than rushing through it, the choices that follow tend to be of a different quality. They feel like yours, not like reactions.
Begin
The first step is a conversation.
A complimentary 20-minute consultation by phone — to hear what brings you, and to see whether we might be a fit. There is no obligation.